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The Time of Your Life


  • According to Facebook founder Mark Zuckerberg, the average American spends 40 minutes a day on Facebook.
  • The New York Post states that adults aged 35-49 watch more than 33 hours of television per week.

Every year during Lent, my church gives out “Virtue Stones”. They are stones (obviously), each inscribed with a different virtue. The purpose is to IMG_3810contemplate and improve on that virtue during your Lenten journey.

This year my stone says TIME. I had never really considered the concept of time as a virtue. Hmmmm. What I do know about time: We never have enough of it, we waste it, squander it, lose it, spend it, don’t know where it went, can’t find it, and try to make it up. The statistics above are pretty scary.  Do you want to spend that much of your precious time every day on Facebook? Couldn’t you catch up on the important things, the updates of your close friends and family, in half that time? I know I could. Skipping the videos of kittens and quizzes of all kinds (Do you really care which Friends character you are?) adds 20 minutes to your day.

As for television, I am guilty as charged. I grew up in front of the TV. The Brady Bunch, The Love Boat, Family Ties. Watching M*A*S*H and Hawaii Five-O with my dad and The Young and the Restless and Guiding Light with my mom. I am still obsessed, now with all the “Chicago”s and Grey’s Anatomy, Scandal and Fixer Upper. I get the shakes just imagining a life without the glowing box in the corner of the living room.

Think about this: How would your life  change if you spent 7 of those 33 hours a week working out in some way, doing anything that gets you moving? How about taking another 5 hours to volunteer in your community in some capacity? Another 7 could be used for reading, prayer or meditation. That would still leave 14 hours for TV! Your life would be so much richer for the new experiences you would be having each day that I bet you wouldn’t even watch 14 hours a week.

As hardcore a TV addict as I am, I have noticed that since I have made some of the small changes mentioned above, I WANT to watch television less. I would rather be doing something that nurtures my body, mind, and spirit,
greysnot numbs it.  I also feel more peaceful, happy, and in control of my life. Coincidence? I think not. Don’t get me wrong, I still want to know if Meredith Grey will ever love again, but I don’t think I will spend an entire Saturday comatose on the couch watching “Say Yes to the Dress” any time soon. Oh, and the ironic thing about time is, you never know how much of it you have left, so DON’T TAKE IT FOR GRANTED!

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The Hidden Cape

GRAYce logoRecently, I went to the doctor for my annual physical. As the nurse was going over my history, she said “Wow, your story is similar to mine.” She went on to tell me that she had lost her husband when she was 37 (I lost mine at 35) to brain cancer (colon) and had been happily remarried for many years (ditto). We chatted briefly and went on our separate ways.

If she hadn’t been looking at my history on her computer, she never would have known what I have been through, and vice versa. For the most part, we women don’t wear our scars where they can be seen by strangers, but hold them as badges of honor close to our hearts.

At the core of every woman you see who you think has it all, there is a woman who has struggled, fought and persevered through life’s challenges. No one escapes unscathed. I like to think of us all as superheroes. We raise families, hold down jobs and keep our houses, all while caring for sick parents or children with disabilities, coping with abuse, addiction, depression or loss. We find the courage and strength to get up day after day even when we don’t think we can, when we just want to bury our heads under the covers.

Eventually, the worst passes, the smoke clears, and we realize that we are still intact, in one piece. One stronger, tougher piece. We go about our days thankful for the normalcy, enjoying the cadence of the daily routine, not thinking about our superpowers. It is only when we glimpse the hidden cape of another that we begin to realize how remarkable we truly are.

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